There’s criticism of age-gap relationships everywhere. Just listen to Taylor Swift’s “Dear John” where she sings, “Don’t you think I was too young to be messed with? / The girl in the dress cried the whole way home.” There are a lot of strong opinions when it comes to age-gap relationships.
But when should you ignore those opinions and when should you actually listen? Pay attention to these signs, and if you see them, unfortunately, your age-gap relationship is most likely toxic.
- You’re at different stages of life. If one of you is still in school and the other one is trying to grow in their career. Or one of you still feels like a kid and the other one wants to start having kids.
- Your age gap is over 20 years. This much apart, you run the chance of one partner being the same age as the other partner’s parents, which brings with it its own set of challenges. This big age gap can also bring with it differences in health, career, and social life preferences.
- One partner is very young. Even if the age gap is only three or four years, major issues can arise if the two of you aren’t developmentally on the same level.
- You’re ignoring the logistics. “Age doesn’t matter because we are in love” isn’t real. Love makes the challenges easier, but it won’t get rid of practical concerns, like if you haven’t both experienced the same developmental norms yet or one of you has more life experience than the other.
Source: Elite Daily