When you start a relationship, you’ve got your “A” game going. You want to do all the things for them all the time, but the longer things go and the more comfortable you get…that can change. It’s natural, but there are ways to get things back to the level you were at when everything was new and exciting. Here are 10 ways to help do that.
- Don't expect your partner to be the sole source of your happiness – The first step isn’t making sure they do everything right, it’s making sure that you’re taking care of “number one”…you. Do the things that make you feel more confident.
- Ask Questions – You’re a work in progress, and guess what…so are they! Don’t guess what they’re thinking or feeling, ask them! You might be surprised at the answers.
- Throw out your baggage – That ex that did something horrible? They probably have one too. If you wouldn’t want them to take that out on you, do them the favor of not taking your ex’s lousy behavior out on them.
- Show and tell – Tell them you love them, but it’s also important to show them. Remember, the little things mean a lot!
- The golden rule – Be the partner you want them to be.
- Practice fighting – Here’s a weird one. Sharpen up your skills on how to talk about touchy subjects by practicing open, healthy communication over tiny things first.
- Private time – You need time to yourself, and so do they. You don’t want to be joined at the hip 24/7 (even if you think you do); you need time to be you.
- Be interested – You’re not the only thing that makes them happy, and you shouldn’t be. But you can share in their enjoyment of other things.
- Yes – Say yes more than no. That’s pretty common at the start of a relationship, but it can fade if you’re not paying attention. Do the things that make them happy, and they’ll do the same.
- New stuff – Do new things. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut, and that leads to boredom, which leads to problems. New activities, food, music…step outside your normal relationship lane and do something new!