Sometimes it can be hard to get a read on new people you’re hanging out with, other times they do or say something that shows their true colors and you immediately know whether you want to spend time with them or not. A Reddit thread digs into this by asking, “What’s something subtle that instantly gives you bad vibes about someone?” More than 2-thousand responses have come in and these are some of the best.
- “When someone says, 'You can trust me.' Nope. If you gotta TELL me that with words, nope."
- "Being comfortable enough sh*t-talking one of their 'close/mutual' friends to me the first time I meet them."
- "When they start 'playfully' roasting you too early on in a connection. That’s for people who are close, and we aren’t anywhere near that."
- "When someone asks you something and starts talking over you before you're done or before you even have a chance to start."
- "Asking the race of the people in your story when you're talking about something that has absolutely nothing to do with race."
- "If they're always the 'good guy' when they tell stories about bad situations."
- "I went to get coffee with a new coworker on her first day so we could get to know each other. She was incredibly rude to the barista within seconds of us ordering. I knew then we wouldn't be friends."
- “When they leave their shopping cart stranded in the middle of the parking lot”
- "When they park in the fire lane to run into the grocery store, dry cleaners, or whatever"
- "That whole backhanded compliment thing. And then, them laughing it off as a joke."
- "People who incessantly refer to you by name in a conversation. It comes across like some weird sales/cult strategy to engineer fake rapport."