The beginning of a relationship is always so wonderful, but once you get out of that honeymoon phase, it can take some work to keep that love going strong. Couples who have been married for 20+ years are sharing the “unspoken rule” that makes their marriage successful. These are the rules that work for them.
- "Understand that you will both meet different versions of each other as you grow as people. Learn how to still have that time for yourself to be better for each other."
- "Never stop acting like you're dating. Go on dates and flirt. Act just as you would if you had just met, and it really helps to keep that spark alive!"
- "We trust each other! We communicate openly, and we don't question each other's motives because we trust that we are true to each other in all ways."
- "Invest heavily in the friendship. When your relationship hits the bumpy patches, and it will, a solid foundation built on friendship goes a long way."
- "Communication is key. Remember to be honest and self-reflective of your own wants and needs. And be considerate of your partner's wants and needs."
- "Pick your battles. You aren't going to agree on everything, but every disagreement doesn't have to be a big thing."
- "I make a point at least a few times a week of looking at my partner through the eyes of a stranger. He's still a stone cold fox."
- "Separate bank accounts."
- "In one word, respect. Respect your mate's feelings and opinions even when you disagree."
- "Forgiveness. Genuinely wiping the slate clean."
- "Compromise and admit when you're wrong. Been married 41 years."
- "Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. If you choose to fight over stupid stuff, you may as well get a divorce because your partner isn't perfect, and neither are you."
- "Just had our 39th anniversary, and the answer is easy: humor. If your spouse makes you laugh every day, you are truly blessed."