If you’re struggling to figure out how to start a convo on Tinder, you’re not alone. Thankfully, love and relationship coach Nicole Moore is here to help. Not only is she an expert, but she also met her husband on Tinder, so you can say she knows a thing or two about conversing on Tinder and having it actually go somewhere. Here are her tips for you to use.
- Pinpoint a specific detail. Comment on something you notice in their profile, whether it be in a pic or in their bio. Whatever detail stands out the most to you, bring it up in that first message.
- Pretend you’re with them in real life. Ask yourself what you’d say to them if you were together, face to face, and say that.
- Be yourself. Whatever message you send, make sure that it contains both your essence and your energy. This worked for Nicole. "I ended up attracting my husband on Tinder, and he is deep and intense, too, and absolutely loved the energy from my profile and our conversations right away,” she shares.
- Take the conversation off of Tinder. If you met in a bar, you’d exchange numbers and go on a date quickly after that, right? This should have that same mindset. Have the goal to stop messaging on Tinder and start messaging through another medium soon.