Texting can be helpful when you’re first getting to know someone, it’s great for flirting and it’s an easy way to let them know you’re thinking of them. But it turns out, there’s a lot to get wrong when it comes to texting in a new romance. According to Laurel House, one of eHarmony’s relationship experts, when you’re dating someone new, the only communication you should have over text is confirming the time and place for your first date, as well as thanking them for a good time.
Only after two dates does she say it’s okay to text to deepen your connection and get to know them better. That’s not the only rule House has for texting in a new relationship. These are her do’s and don’ts for using the tech the right way.
Texting DOs in a new relationship:
- Text before they have a big meeting, a tough conversation or anything they’re nervous about.
- Text when you’re off doing something fun without them … but only once.
- Text a photo of something special they mentioned on your date, like the watermelon gum they said they love.
- Play fun games, like “two truths and a lie.” You can make it deep or light, the point is to reveal things about yourself and create conversation topics.
- Send a link to a song on YouTube and tell them why it made you think of them.
Texting DON’Ts in a new relationship:
- Don’t lean on texts to get to know each other before date 2, do that in person and by talking on the phone.
- Don’t send a friendly check-in, like “how’s your day” until after your second date.
- Don’t drunk text.
- Don’t send “good morning” and “good night” texts until after several dates and only if they reciprocate.
- Don’t over-text, by sending multiple texts before they reply.
- Don’t send lengthy texts, keep it short.
- And don’t sext until your relationship has progressed and you’ve gotten their consent.
Source: Lifehacker