First dates can be intimidating and awkward, but when they go really well, you’ll have a second date and that’s when the pressure is on. “While a first date uncovers potential chemistry and whether you enjoy someone’s company, the second date is where you discover if your date aligns with your values and could be a potential long-term match,” explains couples therapist Sara Tick.
For date number two, since you know the person a little better, the pressure is on to come up with a date activity they’ll really enjoy. That can be tricky since this person is still basically a stranger, but these relationship expert-approved second date ideas can give you some inspo. And with any luck, they’ll help you land a third.
- Head to the farmer’s market - Do some shopping while you stroll through the outdoor market looking for fresh finds. Tick says this date is ideal for introverts as it keeps the conversation flowing because there’s plenty to talk about while you wander around the booths.
- Take a walk - Make it a nice long one that starts at a mutually convenient point and ends at a bar or destination for a nightcap suggests matchmaker Erika Kaplan. You’ll have plenty of time to talk and can always chat about your surroundings if there’s an awkward lull in conversation.
- Play pickleball - The sport is very trendy right now and a little friendly competition could reveal more about your date’s personality.
- Go rock climbing - “This can be a great way to bond and have fun together, while also pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and trying something new,” says Liam Barnett, co-founder of DatingZest.com.
- Take a cooking class - According to Tick, this makes a great second date because you get to work together to create something delicious, plus it gives you a chance to see how you work together as a team.
- Go to a comedy club - Find out what kind of sense of humor your date has by checking out a stand-up or improv show.
- Complete a small bucket list item together - “Find out whether your interests align by doing something you have both always wanted to do and never have,” suggests psychologist and relationship expert Antonia Hall. She explains that overcoming a challenge and fears together will give you a sense of shared adventure and create a bond between you both.