Is texting really the best communication tool when it comes to arguing with your partner? Many relationship experts and therapists stress that serious convos and arguments are best when face-to-face. So how can you break the cycle of fighting with your partner via text? Here’s how.
- Send a text setting boundary. If you find that you or your partner is turning combative, respond via text that you would rather discuss this when you’re face-to-face. An example of a text to send is “Thanks for your text. I think I can better understand your point of view, and share mine, by talking this out in person. When can you do that? Love you.’”
- Respond with a phone call. If you’re on a brink of a fight and now that it can’t wait until you’re together in person, call your partner instead. While on the phone, tell them you’d prefer to chat in person and make sure your tone of voice is calm.
- Schedule regular times to chat. Rather than texting your SO any time something is bugging you, schedule regular check-ins with your partner where you can bring things like this up. Even if you don’t have anything specific to chat about, keep the regular time to chat as it’ll help you get into the habit of having time for important convos.