It’s unfortunately not uncommon for you to go through times where you feel like you’re stuck in a rut with your partner, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship. The good news? There’s things you can do about it. Relationships shared some tips on how to get out of this relationship rut with “Huffington Post.”
- Call attention to it. Don’t aggressively confront your partner but instead point out what you’ve been noticing and ask if they’ve noticed.
- Don’t panic. And have some fun while figuring out ways to get out of the rut with your partner… like taking that trip you’ve bene putting off.
- Look inward. Don’t point immediate blame at your partner, ask yourself “What have I been saying or doing over and over without good results?”
- Be honest. You need to be honest with your partner about feeling disconnected.
- Start small. Do the small, easy things first and it’ll build momentum for the bigger things. A small thing? Spend more time together.
- Do regular check-ins. Set aside an hour or two each week and check-in with each other, like asking “Are your needs getting met?”
- Try something new. It can help light a flame in the relationship.
- Recognize the positives. Acknowledge small, everyday acts of kindness from your partner, like doing the dishes.
- Use your listening skills. Admit your fault and then use your listening skills. When we admit fault, the other person tends to, too.
- Focus on teamwork. You are a partnership, a team, and can work on things together.
Source: Huffington Post