Flirting comes naturally to some people, and not so naturally to others. So how can you do it well? Jean, author of “Flirtology: Stop Swiping, Start Talking And Find Love” is sharing her tips with all of us.
- Use your surroundings to come up with an opener. Ask a question that has to do with where you are. If you’re in a bar, talk about a drink someone has nearby, especially if it’s a cool color.
- Don’t overthink it. Be in the moment! Take baby steps like simply saying hello or asking someone what they’re drinking.
- Accept that rejection sometimes happens. Don’t give up on flirting just because you got rejected. It happens!
- Don’t flirt for validation. Don’t make it all about whether you’re good enough or not. Instead, switch that perspective. If someone doesn’t get your jokes, don’t think there’s something wrong with you. Instead, think that it’s not a good match.
- Give people space to respond. Say something and then don’t immediately say something else. Also, look at their body language like whether or not they’re making eye contact with you or not.
- Ask three people a question to help make you more and more comfortable with speaking to new people.
- Flip the purpose of flirting. Think of the interaction as benefiting the other person, rather than for yourself.
- Have fun! Flirting is about being playful and fun.