We naturally drift away from people whether it’s an old roommate, a former coworker, or a childhood bestie. The first step may be the hardest when it comes to reconnecting with someone who hasn’t been a part of your life for a while now. Sending that first text (maybe in years) can feel awkward and leave you at a loss for words. But therapist Jennifer Vandegriff says not to let “awkwardness, pride, nerves, or even guilt stop you from texting an old friend and seeing what’s up.”
There are a couple of things to take into consideration when you decide on the approach you’re going to take. When was the last time you spoke? What’s been the reason for the distance? Why do you want to reconnect? After you’ve answered those questions, here are some sample texts from “Bustle” that will help you start the conversation with someone you miss.
- “I heard you (insert significant life achievement). Congrats! How have you been?"
- "Hey! Just wondering what your life is like these days. I’d love to catch up.”
- "I just saw your story. (comment about their story)! How's everything going?
- "I totally ghosted you and I’m sorry for that... "
- "I just saw/heard (inset memorable item) and it made me think of you!"
- “Wow, I just had a flashback. Remember when we (insert memory)?"
- "Wanted to say that you're awesome and I don't want to lose touch."
- “I’ve been such a homebody, sorry for not keeping in touch.”
- “My horoscope said I should text you today.”