- HE’S ALWAYS ON HIS PHONE WHEN YOU’RE THERE.
Gone are the days at the beginning of your relationship when he used to focus on you and only you whenever you both spent time together. Nowadays, he’s constantly engrossed in his phone. I’m talking all the time. It’s frustrating because you’re in a relationship with him, not his phone, damn it!
- HE KEEPS HIS SCREEN OUT OF YOUR LINE OF VISION.
Your guy always seems to be messaging people, or perhaps one person in particular. You’ve spotted that the iMessage, WhatsApp, or even Snapchat app is open on his phone and he’s furiously typing away in front of you. In fact, he often turns away from you when you’re both sitting on the sofa and he’s messaging to stop you from being able to see what’s going on. Major red flag.
- WHEN YOU ASK WHO HE’S MESSAGING, HE’S NONCHALANT AND NONDESCRIPTIVE.
The default answer tends to be, “Oh, no one.” Dude, I can see that you’re messaging someone. Quit playing, player!
- HE LOOKS AT HIS PHONE AS SOON AS HE GETS A NOTIFICATION.
You both hear that ding—you know, the one which signals that he’s got a message—and he has to check it right this second. In fact, he practically jumps on his phone to look at it. You’re pretty sure he doesn’t even want to answer you that quickly when you text him, let alone anybody else.
- AS SOON AS HE READS HIS MESSAGES, HE PUTS HIS PHONE AWAY PRONTO.
Well, he either puts his phone away or turns it over when you’re eating next to each other at the dining table so that you can’t see it. It might have started occasionally, giving you the initial impression that he just wasn’t interested in checking his messages while he was with you because he was enjoying your company so much, but now he does this all the time. Is there any wonder you’re suspicious?
- HE’S STEPPED UP HIS SOCIAL MEDIA GAME.
This is a huge indicator that something else is going on. I mean, guys don’t just suddenly start posting more on social media for no reason, right? Call me skeptical, but he never used to be so active on social media. Now, all of a sudden, he’s on there continuously, posting photos every day or liking new girls’ photos on Instagram. Warning bells should be sounding – he’s being shady with his phone.
- HE’S TAKING WAY MORE SELFIES.
Perhaps Snapchat is to blame for this, but you happen to have walked in on him taking selfies several times recently when he never used to take them— and yet you don’t receive any of them. Where exactly are they going? Or, more importantly, who’s receiving them?
- YOU WALK IN ON HIM TALKING ON THE PHONE AND HE ABRUPTLY STOPS.
Your guy knows that you wouldn’t care if you walked in on him on the phone to a friend or his mom, so why would he stop talking when you enter the room? It makes no sense… unless he’s Snapchatting or voice noting someone. In this case, the fact that he stops doing what he’s doing when he notices you is a massive sign of his guilt.
- HE TAKES HIS PHONE WITH HIM EVERYWHERE.
When he nips out for some milk at the grocery store, when he goes for a run, hell, even when he’s going to the bathroom—he takes his phone with him everywhere he goes. You’re never left alone with his phone anymore because he simply won’t let it out of his sight. Sorry, girl, but he’s deffo hiding something if he’s being this shady with his phone.
- HE WON’T LET YOU BORROW HIS PHONE.
Say you made an excuse about “accidentally” leaving your phone at work and needing to call your dad to check that his doctor’s appointment went okay. Would your boyfriend let you use his phone? If he does, would he let you be alone with it? If the answer to all of these questions is a big, fat no, then I’d be worrying for sure. If he does one or two of these things occasionally, you might be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt. However, if he’s doing more than one or two of them—or even all of them—most of the time, then you certainly need to call him out on it.
- HE GETS DEFENSIVE WHEN YOU ASK HIM WHO HE’S TEXTING.
You’re not being nosy, you’re literally just making conversation. (Okay, maybe you are being a little bit nosy, but so what?) If he immediately clams up, stammers out an answer, or acts annoyed that you asked him, there has to be a reason for it. Why is that a weird question? What’s this dude’s problem? Given how integral our phones are to our lives these days, our behavior with these devices can tell us and other people a lot about what’s going on. If you notice your boyfriend being shady with his phone, you’re right to be suspicious.