There’s a million different dating apps nowadays and a million ways to mess up your chances on them. If you’ve been striking out lately, it’s best to go back to the basics. Here are dating experts’ top tips for navigating the wonderful world of online dating.
- Rethink Your Story, Lower The Stakes. According to dating coach Damona Hoffman, “we are addicted to our stories, and that is often the thing that keeps someone from being able to be successful on a dating app.” Meaning we’re often so concerned over being swept off our feet romantically that we’ll overlook a match that would be perfectly fine. Lower your bar and you’ll be much happier.
- Your Dating Profile Is Your “Love Lab.” Instead of letting the stress of curating your dating profile get to you, Hoffman says to treat it like a living document and “a sort of love lab for your life.” It’s not set in stone when you create your profile. Test out different photos and bios. But if you want to know what to avoid completely, Hoffman says oversharing and writing out what you want in a partner is a waste of space.
- Date With Purpose. If you want real results, you’ve got to put in real effort. Hoffman says you need to use these apps “with intention and you have to commit to it for a certain period of time.” This is something you can’t expect to happen in an instant. Hoffman suggests going all-in for three months before throwing in the towel.