A little teasing back and forth in a relationship is fine but criticism can get out of hand pretty quickly. If you’re starting to feel like your boo is always bringing you down, it’s time to have a serious chat. Here is how the experts say you should handle a partner that’s constantly putting you on blast.
- Notice When Joking Feels Personal. You will need to trust your feelings to know when your SO has crossed the line from lighthearted to thinly veiled attack. Dating therapist Dr. Gary Brown says that if “you find yourself feeling chronically anxious, sad, worried about when you are going to be criticized again, or losing sleep,” those are major red flags. This is now a make-up or break-up situation.
- Talk It Out With Your Partner. Psychologist Dr. Joshua Klapow says, “it is critical that if a person feels like they are being criticized, they say something to their partner and that the couple explore the reasons for the comments.” Perhaps it was just a case of miscommunication or maybe there’s something deeper behind it. Knowing what your partner’s intentions were when they low-key roasted you is crucial to fixing it and moving on.
- Know When To Walk Away. No one deserves to feel judged 24/7 by the person they share a bed with. If you tell them you’re hurt by their words and they don’t try to take steps towards fixing things, they’re basically telling you they do not care about your feelings. This isn’t just a red flag, this is a red spotlight with red fireworks. They’re toxic and you need to get out of there for your mental health’s sake.
Source:Elite Daily