When a first date ends, the texting stand off begins. You want to message them immediately and tell them you’re crazy about them but you don’t because you don’t want to seem thirsty, and also, you low-key want them to message you first. But how long should you wait to hear from them? Here’s what the experts have to say:
- How Long Should You Wait To Text Someone After A First Date? Unfortunately, there’s no exact science when it comes to the “perfect time” to expect a text but life coach Pricilla Martinez says it’s reasonable to expect your date to message you within a week. According to Martinez, “if they are interested, they will take the necessary steps to see you again.” So if it’s been a month since you’ve heard from your date… we’ve got some bad news...
- Don’t Freak Out Too Quickly. If it’s getting close to the end of the one-week window and you haven’t seen them in your inbox, do your best to remember that extenuating circumstances do exist and get in the way. Life can get complicated fast and they may have simply put you on the backburner. They should eventually be reaching out and explaining why it’s been so long since they’ve messaged back. It’s up to you to decide whether you believe their excuse or not.
- What Should You Say To A Date Who Hasn’t Texted You? There’s no shame in sending up a follow-up text to check and see if you’re being ghosted. If it’s been a few days since your date, Martinez recommends sending a message to make it obvious that you’d love a second date. If that doesn’t give them a kick in the butt to hit you back, you need to decide if they’re worth any extra time or effort.