Wouldn’t it be clutch to know a breakup is coming weeks in advance? You could start getting your Tinder ready again, start moving out your clothes, and maybe avoid the depression period entirely. But since your partner isn’t going to give you a two weeks notice on your relationship, it’s up to you to figure out when things are coming to an end. Here are some things relationship expert Alex Scott says you should be on the lookout for.
- Communicating With Contempt. According to Scott, this means “talking down to your partner as if you are superior and they are less than.” It can sneak up on you and become involuntary but if you find yourself saying things like “will you ever learn,” or “grow up,” that's a red flag.
- Defensiveness. Are you taking everything your boo is saying to you as an attack? Scott says that if you’ve stopped trying to “hear them out” and “being open to changing,” that could mean your relationship is on its last legs.
- The Silent Treatment. Space is one thing. Blatantly ignoring someone. If you’re shutting yourself off for your boo more often than you are trying to work through issues, that’s another sign a breakup is around the corner.
- Criticism. When you call your partner out for something, do you concentrate on one thing or do you critique their entire personality? For example, do you say “I wish you wouldn’t leave dirty dishes in the sink” or do you say "oh my god, you’re a disgusting mess and you never help around the house...ever?” See the difference? Bet you can guess which one is a bad sign.