People Share “Unwritten Rules” Of Dating

Dating can be complicated, especially in the days of COVID. Ever wonder if it would be easier if we talked about our expectations and laid out some ground rules? BuzzFeed is doing it for us by asking readers to share what they consider the most important “unwritten rules” of dating. And these are some of the best responses:

  • “Quit ghosting people! Be an adult and tell them why you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore. Do NOT break up over text or email. It’s cowardly and disrespectful.”
  • “Be friends with your partner. If you can’t be yourself around them, the relationship probably won’t go very far.”
  • “For the first date, if they want to meet in public and drive themselves, be okay with that.”
  • “You should always be straightforward about seeing other people and being sexually active with other people. Withholding information about what kind of relationship you want prevents the other person from having reasonable expectations.”
  • “Observe and respect exes, siblings, and best friends. Do not date anyone from one of these groups without at least letting the party know. If you cross that line, at least have the decency to bring it up.”
  • “You should both be putting equal effort into it, even if it’s just casual. If they wanted to text/call/hang out with you, they would make it happen!”
  • “Plan for the first date to be short and sweet. An hour is a good amount of time. That way, if either one of you is not feeling the vibe, the date can come to a natural conclusion.”
  • “Don’t ever make assumptions about contraception and/or protection.”
  • “Be honest when something isn’t working for you, no matter how early or late it is in the relationship.”
  • “Send a follow-up text after a date. If I don’t get one, I’ll think it didn't go well.”