- You love and respect yourself and each other
Before you can have a healthy relationship, you need to respect yourself. Respecting yourself requires you to care for yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Are you taking the time to eat good food, exercise relax, enjoy meaningful work, and have time for yourself and your friends and family? Are you following your dreams? Are you doing things that bring you joy? Are you facing your challenges and getting the help you need? If you are treating yourself well, you are more likely to attract another person who is honoring themselves.
- You can be yourself with them
A healthy relationship gives you all the space you need to be yourself. You can let your guard down and not worry about upsetting your partner. You don’t have to watch what you say. You have a deep trust between you and it feels safe.
- You found an equitable way to share responsibilities
Any good relationship requires a willingness both of you to share the duties of daily life. It doesn’t mean you have to share everything. But, it does mean that you need to ensure that the division of tasks feels fair to both parties. If you are living together, it is helpful for you to come to a consensus on the cleanliness standards for your home. Acknowledge that you will have different standards. Agree on what practice will honor you both.
- You have shared friends and friends of your own
Whether or not you are single, or in a relationship, you need friends. No human being can meet all our needs — not even the person we think to be the most amazing friend in the world. It is excellent to have shared friends, who are often also couples — people with whom you enjoy going on a date together. It is also essential to have your own friends. Friends are not only there to have fun, but they can help you process issues that you may be having with your partner.
- You enjoy each other's company
Good relationships require time. If you don’t take the time to build a strong relationship, conflicts will get out of hand. You need to take time to talk so you can let each other know what is going on inside you, play and bring out the inner child in you both, and build intimacy that is full of love, kindness, and respect. Intimacy can never be forced! Find activities that you both enjoy doing such as sports, hiking, walking, gardening, traveling, and all sorts of things.
- You don’t take yourself too seriously
A good sense of humor will bring you a long way. It helps you to observe the interactions between each other and laugh together instead of cursing each other. When you experience conflict, a sense of humor can help you to rise above your differences of opinion. It can help you to see the humanity within each other. When you don’t take yourself too seriously, you are better able to see that most differences of opinion are not the end of the world. With calm minds, there are ways to work through the issues.
- You can communicate well
Communications are always important. First, you need to sit together looking at each other in the face to communicate. When we communicate, we don’t just do it with words we do it through our body language, our tone of voice, and the energy we give off. We gain insight into what others are going through by paying attention to the sensations, emotions, and thoughts that come from within us. Our partners do the same with us.
- You can move through conflict without serious rows
You are going to have conflict. Conflict happens every time there are differences of opinion. Conflict doesn’t mean you have to have a loud fight. Disputes must be confronted in quiet ways looking for a solution that satisfies both. A healthy relationship requires you to be open with each other when there are different points of view. You need to honor yourself. Don’t give in quickly because you don’t like conflict. It is important to take time to find a solution that you can both live with.
- You can feel the energy and passion between you both
Passion and excitement are important. If you don’t feel energy drawing you toward your boyfriend, he might not be the right person for a mate.
- You make time for fun
A relationship without fun will run into trouble quickly. What do you enjoy doing together? Some of you like to plan while others like spontaneity. If you having trouble finding the balance, try planned spontaneity. Then, pick one of you to surprise the other with a night out or at home. The important thing is that you take the time to enjoy being together.
- You support each other to be your best
The greatest gift we can give each other in a relationship is the promise to bring out the best in each other. Bringing out the best in each other means helping your loved one to follow their dreams, even it makes life convenient for you. It means challenging your loved one with kindness if you see them getting into trouble.
Link: Your Tango